Christianity has become an institution that has split into a multitude of diverse beliefs, so much so, that it often overlooks the teachings of true fellowship with others as Jesus showed us. Forging beautiful relationships was part of his mission—human to human—based on an understanding of the relationship between human and the Son of God—and this truth is dying.

Because we tend to rely upon our own human emotions and mindsets, we have adapted to an erroneous characterization about what forgiveness accomplishes in our lives. Our belief systems can contradict the truth about forgiveness God’s way. These belief systems may include selective reasoning about who is worthy (and who is not) of receiving it.
Can this be so if one truly has been awakened to know Jesus Christ?

Several years ago, I was talking with a friend of mine who was experiencing some difficulties emotionally. We talked at great length regarding forgiveness and being healed from the past. Her conversation showed me she was not ready to accept the fact that we are to forgive all people for all offenses, and that releasing the person who harmed her could facilitate true healing in her life, even in her twilight years.

After our conversation she was able to begin to chip away at the fear that had stolen so many years of her life and had affected the lives of those in her family. She quietly and tearfully uttered, “I want to, but I don’t know how.” I remember her squeezing my hand so very tight.

That plea echoed in my ears as if a small child were caught in a dark cave crying to get out. I sensed helplessness and despair in her words.

Here was a beautiful soul that had been bound for over six generations due to an incident of abuse when she was 12 years old. She had never spoken about it. The incident was buried it so deep that she could not remember it. Images of the abuse had begun to surface, haunting her.

If we push an assault in the back of our minds, and, for whatever reason, do not deal with it, eventually it will rear its ugly head. We will build a protective wall around our soul. Subconsciously, we may push those we love away through unrealized acts of self-sabotage.

What inspired this book?

As I began to work out the spiritual application of forgiveness among strained relationships in my life, the overwhelming understanding became evident, that forgiving the way Jesus forgives is the way to true freedom for both the offended and the offender, not merely confessing a belief in a man. I became increasingly burdened about just how much we do not understand the very foundation of our walk as believers in Jesus Christ. A lack of desire to see others free and, more disturbing, an intense desire to want others to pay for their offences seemed to be the norm among some professing Christians (including preachers). That burden became too strong for me to ignore, so I set out to learn–and then write this book–in attempt to shatter the untruths that the church holds so dear about the most life changing force there is on the planet.

Forgiveness is the very essence of love. If we chose not to forgive those who offend us, we are telling Jesus,
“What you endured at the cross was in vain. God needs to do something else because your love is not enough.”